What Is The Big Deal?

In the past 3 weeks, the allergy world has gone crazy over the fact Keebler is going to add peanut flour to its cheese cracker sandwiches. People have been contacting the press, saying that it will kill children, and as of late saying the company will cause anaphylaxis and death. All this towards one company for adding a food ingredient. These crackers were never allergy friendly to begin with; they have milk and wheat in them. These crackers posed a risk to dairy allergic children in their current formulation. The lovely cheese can stick to little hands and spread just as those fear the peanut can. But we dairy moms have always found a way to survive around them.

I personally am having a hard time understanding the outcry. When you are a dairy allergy parent or like me a multiple food allergy parent, you are used to having limited options. Almost all snacks have dairy in it. Most kids love goldfish, or Pirate’s Booty–two very common foods that present risk to children with dairy and other allergens. So where is the outcry for them? Where was the outcry every time a company adds milk, egg, soy etc. to a product? McDonald’s is not a place my family goes to, but where was the outcry when they made every single item unsafe for a dairy allergy person?

It is not Kellogg’s that needs to be held responsible for the health and safety of others, it’s the parents of the allergic child. It’s vital to read labels each and every time you give something to a child. Ingredients change all the time!  In addition, I noticed in many food allergy groups the concern is that someone will hand a child the cracker and assume it’s safe. Why do we allow allergic kids to take food that we ourselves don’t supply? I supply and have supplied all snacks and lunch for my children. Truly, it’s the only way to make sure what they are eating is safe. Also, my school district has a no sharing food rule and I have to agree. We must teach our children at a young age never to share food.
It is so sad to see all this effort spent on talking about one company and only one of the top 8 allergens.  Our communal efforts should be spent on education and raising awareness  for ALL food allergies. Instead all we have now is drama and divisiveness.  


Peter Rabbit, the new movie and controversy over food allergies.


Perhaps my opinion will be unpopular, but I think the food allergy community is overreacting and actually ruining a good opportunity. Let me explain.

Nothing is new about this. Some of us have been around longer than others. In 2009, outrage and hate was directed towards “Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs” because one of the lead characters swells from a peanut allergy. We then saw outrage again in 2014 with “Boxtrolls”, when the villain blows up because he is allergic to cheese. Both times we saw the same outraged reactions we are seeing today. What came of it ? Nothing. Except people thinking food allergy parents are too sensitive. All movies have something. It’s our reactions that matter.

I have watched social media. I read reviews of this movie. I wasn’t going to go as my kids were not interested, and frankly it looked dumb. That said, everything I have seen about this movie seems uninteresting and more suited for older children and young adults. For starters, the previews show Peter as a down right jerk! Food allergies aside, nobody is even mentioning the fact that prior to the food allergy scene, the older farmer dies of a heart attack and Peter does nothing. In fact, he rejoices. Why are we silent on that? This Rabbit is not a nice Rabbit.

Now, let’s address the food allergy issue. Okay, so Peter hatches a plan to kill the younger farmer with blackberries, one blackberry hits him in the mouth and he needs to use an epi-pen,which treats it. First, remember this is a movie! Nothing about this is supposed to real. That aside, we are missing a great teaching moment. The majority of people who see the movie may have no idea about food allergies, or even epi-pens. This could be a great chance to talk to someone on a rational level on what food allergies are, and why it’s so important to carry epi-pens with you, always. This could be also a great chance for kids who see the movie to talk to kids with allergies and get a better understanding of food allergies.

I have seen the posts made to Sony, and the comments on the Facebook page for the Peter Rabbit movie and some of them are upsetting. But do you really think this is going to change anything? Again, I refer to 2009 and 2014 outrage, then everyone forgets. So see the movie or don’t, that’s your choice. But I bet at least one of your child’s friends will see the movie, and will say something to them in school . Educating those who have no idea about food allergies or epi-pens is a better reaction to this movie.


A Food Allergy Mom Review of NETFLIX Show ” ROTTEN” Ep 2 The Peanut Problem.

I saw all over Facebook and Twitter on Thursday, the promotion of a new series on NETFLIX called ROTTEN it would cover food allergies.. So, I of course needed to watch it. I didn’t expect much. We have many food allergy documentaries on the market, how would this one be different? I had my husband watch with me as well so that I would get another opinion.
ROTTEN starts out with peanut farmers and talking about how the industry is in trouble because of peanut allergies. I liked that they made us get to know one peanut farmer and showed us exactly what their job entails. Peanuts are not this big bad poison that many make it out to be. It is an industry just like dairy farming and other farm based industry. The opening really helped established that.
Let me start with the positive side of this documentary, I loved Chef Ming Tsai! He was the best part of the whole show. He spoke very well, and he was the only one who highlighted and mentioned the top 8 food allergens in the United States. Chef Tsai also showed how it is possible to cook for people with food allergies so that they can go out and eat safely. I loved his Chef bible; I have the same kind of thing for my meals at camp. Chef Tsai should have been the focus of this documentary.
Now what I didn’t like. 4 main things bothered me. The first thing that will come as no surprise to anyone who follows this blog–the focus yet again on peanuts. As I stated above, Chef Tsai was the only one who mentioned the top 8, but the bulk of the story, actually all of it, was on peanuts. I really was unhappy with almost everything Dr. GUPTA said. First, peanuts are NOT the most common allergen, and using terms like “Most Severe” about peanut allergy undermines all the other top 8 plus food allergies. We have top 8 in the United States, meaning that 90% of reactions come from those foods. Milk allergies, fish allergies, tree nut allergies, egg, wheat etc. All can kill. Need I remind everyone in 2017 we lost 7 people to dairy allergies. Dr. Gupta is saying this to an audience who may have no clue about food allergies at all. What she just did was basically reinforce the idea that food allergies are just peanut allergy and peanut allergy is the only thing that causes anaphylaxis. I also have a huge issue with her talking about food challenges like she did. She is not a board-certified allergist. Yes, skin tests and blood tests are not perfect. However, as someone who has had her kids do many food challenges, I can tell you with the exception of the milk patch study that required us to do challenges, my doctor–our allergist– has never ever suggested we do a challenge to foods that looked pretty likely to cause reactions. We are talking about high IGE and high skin test numbers. Yes, food challenges are helpful for foods where it’s 50/50 or the numbers are low. Just saying it’s required as she did worries me. The final thing that concerned me was how they kept going back and forth with the story in England. Popping between people in the US and the story in England felt like I was watching 2 different shows. Also, it seemed to contradict all that Ming Tsai does. Let me also add that England has top 14 allergens whereas we have 8. It’s no secret that many of us fear the more lawsuits, the less likely restaurants will be willing to serve us. One final thing–they showed OIT as a treatment but made no mention of any other treatments being studied in the U.S. and there are many.

Overall, I didn’t find ROTTEN’s coverage any different then any of the other documentary on food allergies. I actually asked both my husband and a friend who doesn’t have food allergies what did they take away from it. I wasn’t surprised on what they both said. It’s a shame, because this could have been a great opportunity to educate on all food allergies. An opportunity which was yet again lost.


Year End Wrap Up and Hopes for 2018!


Well, 2017 has come and gone. I was looking over my posts from the year seeing if anything has changed.  The answer is No. I wish we had made even some baby steps, but things are exactly the same, if not getting worse.

Perhaps the most egregious thing about 2017 is the 7 reported deaths due to dairy allergies. The hardest hitting one for me was the little 3 yr. old here in NYC, who died after eating a grilled cheese.   In the UK, a schoolboy died after having cheese in his mouth as well.

Yet, we still witness the refusal of many in the food allergy community to accept that other allergies–aside from peanut allergy– are just as dangerous.

So, what is my hope for 2018? I know most of this can’t happen, but if I could wave a magic wand this is what I would want:

I would love media attention focused on allergies other than nuts, be it during food allergy awareness week, month or any other random day. I don’t mean a poster, but actual stories.

I would like to see schools establish food allergy policies that protect and include all students and that are fair.  Most importantly, policies that educate that any food is dangerous and how to respond in an emergency.

I would like to see more education on the dangers of dairy, and that it’s NOT lactose intolerance.  Same for those with wheat allergy. It should not be confused with celiac disease.

I would expect to never see in a food allergy post the following “peanuts are more dangerous”; “their oils get everywhere.” Peanuts unlike other allergies can be airborne” when a parent is explaining how their child with another allergy deals and how their allergy is never removed.

I wish the food allergy community was filled of more people like Linda Coss, Lynda Mitchell, Anne Munoz- Furlong and others like them. They were active, but grounded and didn’t spread fear. They were multiple food allergy parents and they got the bigger picture.

I want to be able to say that we can share our experiences without being attacked, or silenced, or feeling embarrassed for sharing them and speaking up.  I don’t want to be told to scroll by if I want to share a different perspective. One cannot deny experiences others have had.

The final one is hard–the more we fight and sue, the more people are not willing to accept us. We need to find a balance. Demanding accommodations that are not truly needed for safety is a disservice to the entire food allergy community, and I fear more and more places will simply claim they are unable to accommodate.

Finally, I wish that all people who need epinephrine auto-injectors can get them and always carry them and that we won’t lose anyone to asthma and anaphylaxis.


I have been sitting here for a few days, thinking over the death of a fellow New Yorker. a 3 year old boy, due to a dairy allergy. I have so much to say, so much going on in my head, that I had to stop and think about it all.

This senseless tragedy didn’t need to happen. Yet, I also can’t help but feel I saw this type of thing coming. And I am frustrated. And I am angry. Anyone who has read my other blog posts knows I have been very vocal about the risks posed by a dairy allergy. I have been very vocal about how the world knows about nut allergies and even accommodates nut allergies. The world doesn’t know food allergies outside of nuts. It’s sad but true. I have been a dairy allergy and food allergy mom for 13 years. I have had to fight to keep both my boys safe and included; even fighting within the food allergy community itself. I have long pointed out the media focus is on nuts only. I have pointed out that the “advocates” who we all see also are very nut allergy focused. Every time I would point out that nut bans don’t protect other allergic kids, or that dairy allergies were just as dangerous, I would be attacked, called names, even blocked. I have called papers like the New York Times, when they ran a story last January over flying with peanut allergies, the dangers and the struggles, and had to tell them they are overlooking the risks to those managing other food allergies. I have been told the risk with peanut allergy is greater in schools because it’s messy, because it stays on surfaces, and that peanut allergies simply are more deadly. I have been told I am lucky that my sons have a dairy allergy and not a peanut allergy because peanut allergy is deadly. I have been told that peanut and nut allergy awareness will help those of us with other allergies. That line has been said to me so many times over the last 10 years and nothing has changed!

Dairy can not be avoided anywhere. Indeed, it’s required in schools per the USDA. Pizza, ice cream and grilled cheese are the foods of choice for kids, and yet most don’t equate it to the danger of a peanut butter sandwich. Why? The risk is the same. So we who manage a dairy or other allergy have no choice; our kids are surrounded by their allergens, and that means they are always at risk.

So many questions about this tragedy remain, but we as parents must demand that the people who take care of our children understand the seriousness of the situation. We must have better education for anyone who works with a child of any age with a food allergy. We must ensure that each school has tight policies and procedures on how kids get food. We must make sure that each adult knows of every child’s allergy. We must have a no sharing food rule, and we must make sure that staff know how to identify and treat anaphylaxis. We can not have this conversation only be around nut and peanut allergies. It must be policies that cover and protect all.

While I don’t know the specifics in this case, I immediately suspected the child had asthma, and he did. That makes me think that the adults present may have thought he was just having an asthma attack. This points up another thing missing in our food allergy world–the conversation that having asthma is indication for a severe reaction. The great thing is, epinephrine can treat both conditions; but an inhaler alone will not treat anaphylaxis. It is vital to have a food allergy action plan, and that is what should have been followed. There is but a small window of time during which epinephrine will work. It must be administered quickly.

While we can’t go turn back time and bring back little  Elijah, I want people to see this tragedy as a wake up call and use it to educate about the dangers of food allergies other than peanut and nut allergies. We must treat all food allergies equal. It’s a matter of life and death.




I have a question, and I hope someone  can explain the rational to me.  As many know, I have been debating the need for peanut bans when no other food allergen gets banned the way peanuts are. As most know ANY food allergen is capable of causing anaphylaxis.  So what I find mind boggling and need help understanding is the following.  Why do multiple food allergy parents feel that peanut bans keep their kids safe?  Hear me out,  I am constantly told that eliminating one is better then none, or that peanuts are more dangerous.  I don’t get it, if your kid is allergic to milk and egg or wheat as well, the risk is the exact same! yet your okay being around them?

I guess I am wondering why is it that these multiple food allergy parents don’t see that they are all equal risk? How can you feel eliminating one keeps you safer? I just don’t understand. If your child had a peanut, milk, egg and soy allergy, how is sending them to a nut free school or a nut free class protecting them. Pizza and milk would be all around same with egg, So how can one say ” eliminating one is better then none” umm the risk is still present. Great so no nuts, but your child is still at risk of anaphylaxis from dairy, egg or soy exposure. Your child has equal risk.  So please tell me how eliminating just nuts keeps someone safer. Last time I checked you can’t chose which one of your allergens is more dangerous.

So please explain.

Speaking up!

It’s time for back to school. Each year on social media and in the news, letters and stories are posted showing school nut bans. Each year, I cringe when I see these letters; I even wrote my own letter which many have seen on this blog.


I have been VERY clear and will remain very vocal about this issue of schools creating blanket nut bans.  Schools need to stop thinking that nuts are the only foods that can cause anaphylaxis. Anaphylaxis does not discriminate between a peanut and an egg or milk.   If a person is allergic to an item, it doesn’t matter. All allergies should be managed the same way. Equal policies must be applied to anyone with a food allergy; meaning if you ban nuts, you better be ready to ban any other food allergen.  The management for any food allergy is the same. By focusing only on nuts, we have marginalized the potential severity. I personally have seen people say the following, which is NOT true.


“Peanuts are much more dangerous than other allergens.” Nope, anaphylaxis does not discriminate foods!


“Well, the other allergens are not sticky or oily like peanut butter.” NOT TRUE!  Oil from pizza, cream cheese, powdered cheese dust that sticks to fingers, even Mayo for egg allergies and let’s not forget sunbutter –yup, same issue.


Well most kids outgrow milk and egg, so it’s not a big deal.”  While many kids do, they are not outgrowing it at the same rate as before, and even by age 16 many are still allergic. So NOPE.


“Well nuts are the more popular allergen.” Actually, milk and egg are the most common allergens. But it really shouldn’t matter.


“Milk doesn’t cause anaphylaxis.” Yep tell that one to any parent who has had to have their kid hospitalized after milk anaphylaxis.


“But nuts are airborne.” Okay this one, ugh. First, ask any allergists and they will tell you it is extremely rare, not that it can’t happen but it’s not a common as some would lead you to believe. In addition, what nobody talks about is that any food can be airborne. It really depends on a few different factors. For example, are they crushing nuts? Are they heating up nuts? Fyi, the same goes for any other allergen–cooking /steaming milk, cooking fish or egg… all can cause the same issue. And powders like, peanut powder, powdered cheese, and wheat flour can also cause respiratory reactions. So, if that is the concern, then yet again the concern needs to apply to ALL allergens not just one.


“It’s a start.” Yeah… no it’s really not. I’ve been at this game a long-time! People, if it was a start, we shouldn’t be where we are now. We are in the same place for other allergens that we were in 15 years ago! Just my examples above show how little progress has been made for non-peanut and nut food allergies


So to those who have written and said I am angry, or that my message is not being delivered, or that I am one-upping allergens, or that I am anti-nut, I will tell you it’s none of the above. I am sick and tired of my concerns for my children’s food allergies and children like them not being heard.  I am sick and tired of peanuts and  nuts being the only allergies that are known about  I am tired of seeing peanut pictures for every story about food allergies. I am tired of classes getting letters about peanut/nut free rooms and kids with dairy, egg, sesame, citrus, strawberry  and other allergens not being included on that list. I am tired of having to fight the statements listed above, because people have been given inaccurate information.  I don’t like to see kids with other food allergies forced to limit their own diet further, when nobody is going to remove their allergens.  I don’t like to see kids with other food allergies being overlooked and excluded.

So as long as this keeps happening, I and a few others will keep speaking up, because every child with food allergies should have equal rights and be included, no matter what food allergy. Every child with food allergies should have people  just as concerned  about their allergen as people are about peanuts and nuts.  THE SAME RULES needed to manage a peanut allergy are needed to manage every other food allergy.






OIT And Baked Milk Is Not For Everyone.

A lot of hype has been going on about Oral Immunotherapy (OIT), and in the case of milk allergies, a lot has been written about doing baked milk, or even something called the milk ladder to resolve milk allergies.  Just this week, I saw many people on the internet say baked milk is the cure and it’s easy to resolve a milk allergy.
I am here to tell you that while studies show that somewhere between 75-80% of children with milk allergies can have baked milk, as decent amount can’t. I know this first hand. I have 2 children who are allergic to dairy.  My older son actually was a participant in the much talked about Baked Milk Study. We were so excited at the time that while my other son didn’t qualify, at least he did.  I was told his blood numbers looked good for a favorable outcome, His skin test look moderate, not awful. This baked milk study had 4 parts to it.  1st a baked muffin, then you would progress to things like really baked pizza, then you would work up to a pudding.   I knew we wouldn’t get past the pizza, but I was hoping we could get past the muffin so we could add it into his diet.  I was familiar with this idea as my younger son was doing baked egg at the time.  So, my older son started with the muffin, and all looked good.  Then, an hour and a half in, after he had eaten 70% of the muffin, he sneezed and started coughing and couldn’t stop. Boom. Epinephrine was administered. Thankfully, they were prepared and responded at the first sign.
What did we learn from all this? Well first, my son said he never wanted to do that again.  But we learned his milk allergy wasn’t going away. In fact, each year since, we run tests to see if there has been any change. We were actually not able to complete the study as his numbers have only climbed higher and higher since then. We were told it we could NOT try again.
It’s infuriating to see people think that if someone has a milk allergy, they can just start eating baked milk and the allergy will resolve, since for 25% of the milk allergic population that will not be the case. People need to understand there is no 100% fix for food allergies, despite what some have said.
I have put my children in any study that I thought could help. My youngest child has been in studies since he was 6 months old. That’s over 10 years.  My younger son is in the milk patch study now, with the hopes that might lessen his reactions. I don’t expect it to fully resolve his allergy.  I fully expect my older son to remain allergic to milk. Heck, I am allergic to milk so I shouldn’t be shocked.
So, until this allergy thing is all sorted out, please please, don’t tell people baked milk, or OIT or the milk ladder is the solution. While it may be successful for many, it also has failed for many.